Response to Gorean Male vs. Husband on the Gorrarii Board
The following is the link to the board, Gorrarii Board, below is my response to the specific thread mentioned above.
Greetings, Mistress, I've been following this thread Gorean Man versus husband on Gorrarii and I find it somewhat intriguing. I had never really given it much thought till I saw this particular Master's question regarding it. Since then, I've seen a few responses to it, but I guess I have some of my feelings on it, albeit, I admit I have no knowledge on it personally. I think it ultimately becomes a choice of what the man himself wishes to place his beliefs on. It is possible for a man to be Gorean and to be an honorable husband to a slave in the manner in which he speaks, but I would think, only if that is in his nature to be faithful, if he looks to his religion as one that supersedes his philosophy. If, however, he places his philosophies above his religion, than he must follow what is natural in him in order to be called Gorean I would think. The choice is ultimately what is in him, which his gut tells him is more important. To listen to anything else I think, could be denying his natural state, thus his philosophy, and he would not be Gorean then, would he? As far as the wife is concerned, now will be her test to see if she is a wife or a slave. I would say that there are circumstances which prevent a divorce so that a proper choice can be made, but when she agreed, after she was married to fall to her knees and submit to him as his slave, she pretty much said that she will put slavery above being a wife. If that is the case, then she must do as her Master wishes and in fact she should be supportive of him following his natural instincts. When she got down on her knees and surrendered to him, she decided that the oath of marriage didn't mean as much as her desire to be property to him. She may possibly, since she was the one who introduced him to Gor, truly want him to take control of the situation. According to the post he left, she begged his collar, to which he decided it pleased to him to have her as a slave. She must now make a decision as to whether or not she will comply with the decision she made. That doesn't mean it will be easy for her, but if she keeps in mind that it is as it pleases him, that it's not about her, then it will get easier as time goes by. Even if she were to be Freed and become his Free Companion, the choice is still his and his alone. She can speak her mind, hopefully respectfully, but it is still his decision. It apparently pleases him to consider her feelings and that is an admirable thing, but ultimately she has no control over the decision. I did find the one response about it being reciprocated interesting though. Perhaps, she was topping from the bottom and wishes to be used by others. It was something that struck me as a possibility as I know my desire to be used by more than one has been strong at some points. I do wonder if it would please him to allow that? When it reaches that level sometimes a little bit of insecurity can be the death of any relationship, and I do look forward to see if he replies to that. Thing is, Gor is not fair, she knew that if she knew Gor and it may please him to have her for himself, but for him to indulge in others. So if she was hoping for that, she might find out just how unfair Gor is. Wishing you well, In service, ancilla  Home  Gor My life Essays Self Examination Quotes Music Resources Credits Links Email Other Stuff
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